Just for a few minutes, let go of all the things you've in mind and stop for a while to think about it. Didn't you think before that maybe for a second it was also your fault in something you blamed it all on someone else ? I'm guessing the answer is YES. Or have you ever thought that all those those things that once good gone bad isn't all because of the surroundings ?
Pause your life for few minutes & redraw your life pattern infront of you. Your message in this life is to make a difference in this world & you can't make that change while you can't change yourself to better & look to life with a better prospective. Well as they say stars shine the most in the darkest nights. Also is life. Non of us is perfect, & we shouldn't be. Why would we? Perfection is boring! I'm just asking if we could make a difference in our own lives, which can be done.
Change your life pattern. Undo that daily dose that you do everyday in waking up,washing,brushing,dressing up,going to work,...etc. or when you're off you just lay in bed. How about giving yourself 10 minutes in the morning for a little bit warming up for the big day waiting for you, How about changing the place you go out everytime you go out & do sth that will ensure you that you'll have fun. Start with some little changes to your everyday dose, Start with some little changes to the way you think for example treat everyone as you want them to treat you.
I'm not asking you to change completely, NO, i'm asking you to add some spice to your life, Be your own cherry on the top of your day. Be responsible for your own happiness, Don't whine, & Don't act like a drama queen. Your attitude is based on how you decide. Pick your battles wisely. Sometimes its the smallest decisions that can change your life forever. & There's nothing wrong with change as long as its in the right direction. If you don't like sth in you, then change it, if you can't, then change the way you look about it.
Don't stand still, Keep moving, & try to make sure you're moving forward, even if you're not moving fast, but at least you're not standing still. The thousand mile journey starts with a single step. Take that step & change to the better. Don't make excuses, Its your time now. Define your own life. Cause if you don't create change, then change will create you. Your world is yours!
Yeah life's unfair, but that's not an execuse. You can't let some bad choices to hold you back . Rememeber Empty pockets never held anyone back. Only empty heads and empty hearts can do that. So be smart while living your life, cause its limited edition, you have only one life to live ! Start to make changes to your life, Better choices for a better change ;)
We shouldn’t look back, only forward. That why our eyes are in the front . We should just be ourselves but try to change to better but not a lot. Yeah your past may be cloudy, but your future is spotless. & you can see it in a another way, think about it if God gave us all good days, then how would we learn from our mistakes? You're the author of your own life don't put your future in unknown hands – pur your future in good hands - God *Allah* & your own. & It does not matter how slowly you go so long as you do not stop. You future is a head of you, don't let anyone with bad influence on your life hold you back .
So please stop waiting for a map. Cause those who draw their own maps are rewarded, not those who follow them. Also you may blah blah blah about all those problems, But don't think of problems as difficulties. Think of them as opportunities for action.The purpose of life is a life of purpose. Find that purpose that you're living for. God created you to make a difference in this world to turn in to a better world, Define your own life. Stop talking about others life & matter about yours. Wanna create a meaningful life ? Then dream it; & pursue it. & When you keep getting the wrong answers,then you might wanna start trying asking better questions.
“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.” That's what you should keep in your mind, not "No, i can't do it cause ____ doesn't like me doing it or having it" The only one who should matter the most while picking our life choices it "Allah" then comes out parents. I don't care how much that friend who asks me not to means to me because if i really want to do it then I WILL. "Want something then you'll do everything to have it, no excuses, no broken promises, no lies ". So keep me out of that *Trash* conversation that you want to but somebody doesn't want you too, & then you ask "what should i do ?" while you already know the answer.
Don't tie your life's knot around "People will say..." circle ! But instead tie your life's knot around "What i want..." circle ' :) '. Lead your own life, don't let other lead yours, you have only one life at the end ! Our goals are represented in our success, our relationships, our life style, everything. Why let anyone lead your relationship to i don't know where !? As i said it's your relationship, really want it, then fight for it, & its always mind over matter, you shouldn't mind about them & who are against you shouldn't matter. Two people loved each other crazily but when they break up they blame people around them, well yeah they may be blamed but also those two who were in that relationship didn't fight for it they way they should have . They just let it go & didn't take that big step to get over their relationship problems.
Now people aside, to the couple's side, He cheated on her for example, she breakes up with, tell the whole world that he cheated, blame him for all what happened, well yeah i can't deny he's made a bad choice by cheating on her, & i'm not okay with him cheating in fact i hate cheating, but the problem is that he wouldn't have cheated on her if she really gave him all what she has got. Their relationship lacked one element at least that let him to cheat, So he shouldn't be the only one who's blamed, i'm just saying that when there's a problem the TWO sides are involved.
& as Jennifer Yane said "The only thing that has to be finished by next Tuesday is next Monday." Just as "He/she hurt me" well they wouldn't have hurt you if you didn't let them too. So stop whining & matter about what's heading towards you. Start to figure out what should have been done to make it right next time, Let go of what happened & hold on to what you believe in so that next time you can act better.
You shouldn't be where you were going, but also you shouldn't be where you were. Don't let people actions hold you back. Dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do. Take chances, make mistakes. That's how you grow. Pain nourishes your courage. You have to fail in order to practice being brave.