Why is that people's reaction & opinion always important to us ?! Even if those reactions & opinions annoy us, we still seek for them. & those phrases " He said not to.." but " She said yes.." well " Idk what's their reaction will be ?!" & a lot other ones. Those phrases that head us to that vortex, that complicate things more than they are. Why aren't things as simple as " If i want it then i'll do what i have to, other than that they don't matter ".
“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.” That's what you should keep in your mind, not "No, i can't do it cause ____ doesn't like me doing it or having it" The only one who should matter the most while picking our life choices it "Allah" then comes out parents. I don't care how much that friend who asks me not to means to me because if i really want to do it then I WILL. "Want something then you'll do everything to have it, no excuses, no broken promises, no lies ". So keep me out of that *Trash* conversation that you want to but somebody doesn't want you too, & then you ask "what should i do ?" while you already know the answer.
Don't tie your life's knot around "People will say..." circle ! But instead tie your life's knot around "What i want..." circle ' :) '. Lead your own life, don't let other lead yours, you have only one life at the end ! Our goals are represented in our success, our relationships, our life style, everything. Why let anyone lead your relationship to i don't know where !? As i said it's your relationship, really want it, then fight for it, & its always mind over matter, you shouldn't mind about them & who are against you shouldn't matter. Two people loved each other crazily but when they break up they blame people around them, well yeah they may be blamed but also those two who were in that relationship didn't fight for it they way they should have . They just let it go & didn't take that big step to get over their relationship problems.
Now people aside, to the couple's side, He cheated on her for example, she breakes up with, tell the whole world that he cheated, blame him for all what happened, well yeah i can't deny he's made a bad choice by cheating on her, & i'm not okay with him cheating in fact i hate cheating, but the problem is that he wouldn't have cheated on her if she really gave him all what she has got. Their relationship lacked one element at least that let him to cheat, So he shouldn't be the only one who's blamed, i'm just saying that when there's a problem the TWO sides are involved.
& as Jennifer Yane said "The only thing that has to be finished by next Tuesday is next Monday." Just as "He/she hurt me" well they wouldn't have hurt you if you didn't let them too. So stop whining & matter about what's heading towards you. Start to figure out what should have been done to make it right next time, Let go of what happened & hold on to what you believe in so that next time you can act better.
You shouldn't be where you were going, but also you shouldn't be where you were. Don't let people actions hold you back. Dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do. Take chances, make mistakes. That's how you grow. Pain nourishes your courage. You have to fail in order to practice being brave.